More Than Mom

If you’ve ever used your kids as an excuse to not live your best life... I think that’s not cool.

Unpopular opinion, but hear me out on this.

We, as moms, are literally forming their subconscious brains when they are little.

If we care, we are probably doing the obvious things like teaching manners, to look both ways before crossing the street, and teaching them the alphabet and their numbers.

Super important. Obvi.

But what are we teaching them through how we live our day to day?

What are they watching us do, absorbing, and locking away in their cute little heads?

They see it all: you getting up to workout every day; you having to put on makeup before a grocery store run; you going to work every day to earn what you want; you going to a job you love (or hate); the way you speak to yourself; the way you view your body; the goals you are (or aren’t) achieving; the way you treat others.

They are learning the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sometimes, because society tells us to abandon everything about our true selves in the name of motherhood, we teach them they can’t both be a good mom AND achieve other goals during their time here on earth.

I don’t know about you, but if I gave my daughters that mentality, I’d be horrified.

Teach them to go after what they want.

Teach them that the world is at their fingertips.

Teach them how to love so hard.

Teach them that they have free-thinking brains that can be used to bring good.

And teach them they have not only the right, but the responsibility to model these things to their children, should they go there. (Also NOT something that should be expected, but that’s another post...)

Having kids is the most important/most favorite job I have. Easily. But my job isn’t just to dot the i’s and cross the t’s, and abandon myself (in the name of motherhood!) til they’re out on their own.

It’s to actually model how to live a fulfilled life while they’re here with me.

And that includes hopefully getting over my own subconscious B.S., shining my light and truth, using my strengths for good, and always getting back up after I fall short.

We’re all doing the best we can, and teaching our kids through our actions. And doing our best? That’s Luxuriously Dope. 🖤