Yeah, No...

Did you know it’s ok to say NO?

It’s ok to have less contact with that person that absolutely drains your spirit and drags you down (even if not intentionally).

It’s ok to distance yourself from that friend who is too busy.

It’s ok to say no to plans you don’t want to have.

And perhaps the most mind-blowing thing it’s ok to do... in all of these circumstances?

It’s ok to do it in a positive way and from a good place.

It’s not an ‘either/or’ situation:

‘Either I answer this phone call I don’t want to (and I’m secretly pissy I have to) or I ignore it and I’m mad at them for making me feel this way.’

Negative.

‘Either I go to this party (begrudgingly), or I stay home and talk bad about their stupid party, anyway.’

Negative.

‘Either I keep being the first one to attempt to keep this friendship going, or I go no-contact and we officially aren’t friends anymore.’

Negative.

It’s entirely possible (and most likely will happen more often than not) that you can simply make your decisions from a place of ‘This is what I need to do for me. They are still a good human, it just isn’t what I need right now.’

Positive.

In each of the either/or examples above, by doing the thing you don’t want to but ‘should’ do, you are actually super inauthentic, and probably more of a liar than if you had just said no in the first place. Plus, a yes OR a no end up in nothing but a nasty place when stemming from negativity.

How about this positive and healthy mindset instead?

The world will go on, and no one’s life will fall apart if I don’t answer this call. Or attend the party. Or reach out first. (I mean, come on. Confidence is great. But see the big picture here.)

They’ll be fine.

And even better?

You’ll be fine, too. Maybe even a happier person, because you’re doing authentically what you want to do- WITHOUT being negative and mean about it because you feel guilty or mad at them.

It’s all good, baby.

Make your choices from a positive place, and know that NO is still totally fine, necessary for authenticity, and is actually a positive thing.

And positive and authentic things?

Obviously, they’re Luxuriously Dope. 🖤